What Should I Do???

Should I Go???

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atourina

atourina

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so heres the story... there are these 2 girls Shannon & Sasha.. and their sisters (JROK might remember them)... i've known them since i was 4 years old.. they used to live 3 houses down from me... at first we were best friends.. but as the years went by.. we started to hate eachother..

me and their mom had a few arguements.. so i know she doesnt like me.. but i havent spoken to any of them in at least 3-4 years...

my best friend just called me... and told me Shannon & Sasha father just past away... he had cancer.. and he died this morning...

now, even tho i didnt really like the girls.. i still started bawling my eyes out.. cuz i've known their family for 17 years... but the thing is.. should i go to the visitation??? i really wanna go.. but it would just be weird cuz i havent talked to them in years... sooo yeah.. what do u guys think??
 
Atou.. you should go. In a time like this, they will only appreciate you being there.

those poor girls.. alaha manyikhle
 
Putting myself in their position: if I didn't like someone, I wouldn't want to see them if I'm coping with the loss of a loved one. It just adds stress. They have enough to deal with. Now's not the time to make amends. If you really want to pay your respects, why don't you do it informally (i.e. outside the whole funeral process)?
 
i would go just outta respect and to show them even though u guys dont like each other ur their if they need anything
 
Go....if not for them...then for out of respect for their father... :sleep:

u said u cried and felt bad...cuz you knew him and stuff...so nothing should stop you from paying ur respects..... :sleep:
 
well.. thanks for ur input guys.. i think im gonna go.. i talked to alot of people today.. who all agreed with me :lol:
 
steelcity_guy19 said:
i say dont go, because of what that one guy said. You dont wanna see ppl u hate at something that serious.
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true...but i think u should still go..be the bigger person atourina :mrgreen:
 
its not that we HATE eachother... we're just not very likeable of one another.. but when we do see eachother every once in a blue moon.. we do say hi and how are u.. thats about it...
 
i just found out there is no visitation... just a funeral.. which i have decided not to attend... cuz i think funerals are more for family and close friends..
 
yeah.. i have to work during the funeral anyways..

but my parents are going.. and they're going to be sending them a gift basket...

this was in todays paper:

SIMLER Peacefully and surrounded by his family, at his home, Pierre Gerald Simler was welcomed into the arms of God, on Sunday, November 20, 2005 in his 48th year after a difficult and well fought battle with cancer. Pierre's great sense of humor, determination, strength and passion for life will be missed by his soul-mate and beloved wife Louise. He was the proud and loving father of Shannon and Sasha. Caring and loving son of Walter and Matilda Simler. Loving brother to Isabelle Simler-Fuoco. Son-in-law to Charles and Eileen Fraser. Pierre's support and friendship will be deeply missed by all his family, his loving Brothers and Sisters-in-Law and his many nieces and nephews. Pierre is predeceased by his sister; Marisa who we know welcomed him in to heaven. Pierre will be cremated and the family will hold a Mass and memorial service for Pierre at St. John the Divine Parish
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May he Rest in Peace
 
i think i'm late..but if i was u i'd go..not cuz of ur history..but imagine if u start talking to them again..then u'd feel bad for not going in teh first place..and the funeral anybody can attend.. it's not like u have to go and kiss their ass .. but it's respect.. i mean u were friends once and that's all that matters.. id ont know i'd go.. especially if i knew somebody that long.. :angel2:

since u didnt go u should call and offer ur respects.. death is somethig u shouldnt mess w/.. i'd feel bad that i'd get punished someway for holding a stupid grudge.. :blink:
 
no bella! You dont go because they might not want her there, and make lead to some trouble. You let the funeral be, maybe send them an email saying i heard im sorry, and go on from there.
 
i didnt go cuz i had to work... my dad and my sister went.. and they girls starting crying when they saw them there...

they told my sister they didnt start to cry until they saw her and my dad.. and that it meant alot to them that they were there..

their mother told my sister we should all put the past behind us.. anyways.. i think me and my mom are planning on going to their house next week or something... since we couldnt make it today
 
I'd go and it might open a new chapter in your relationship. People realize life is short and no time to sweat the small stuff so perhaps they will appreciate you being there and perhaps you could reach out in friendship and begin again.
 
I'd go and it might open a new chapter in your relationship. People realize life is short and no time to sweat the small stuff so perhaps they will appreciate you being there and perhaps you could reach out in friendship and begin again.


Oops, I'm late..........I didn't read it all.......U didn't go but go to the house and put the past behind you and begin again.......life is too short.
 
May Shannon & Sasha's father rest in peace ,and good on you Atour for actually thinking of going to see the girls,im sure they would really appreciate it because at times like these they probably need a dear friend to lean on. :cry2:
 
yeah.. they were very appreciative when they saw my sister and my dad at the mass.. i just wish i could have gone too.. instead of being stuck at work
 
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