Being an iraqi made my life so sad and there is so much anger inside me at the people i call assyrians,whom i thought one day will make my life happy..how can u be proud to be one of them,when they put u down and make fun of ur feelings,but i guess,u dont choose ur? life or ur people.........
I dont like being iraqi...
- Thread starter manuel50
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Valantina said:I Thank God for everything i have in my life and the way it is?
If you Never appreciate what you have, then you will never appreciate what you will have in the future? :razz:
well valantina,u are not a guy and so u think differently..good for u that u love everything that u have...but its not the same with me..
X e n a
New member
manuel50 said:
You have nothing but negative things to say about everything, I've never seen someone whine, as much as you do.
Everyone's life has ups and downs but that's what makes you who you are, you need to learn to balance the 2 and deal with it. Like Valantina said, you need to appreciate what life gives you and God will give you more. Maybe you're lacking appreciation, so why should your life be perfect? You should be thanking God, you don't have bombs raining over you.
If I'm wrong, seek a professional because you have some serious issuses or you're just craving attention.
Or wait, is this another one of your famous complaints about Assyrian girls not liking you?
honestly i duno if i should say this but heres a SLAP OF REALITY.. ur a fukin idiot for refering urself an IRAQI. you are ASSYRIAN. thats ur nationality. u just happen to come from a land called IRAQ.. because it was taken over by arabs and muslims yet u decide to follow and call urself IRAQI. thats disgusting.. its.. DISGUSTING!
if u want to be looked at as a terrorist... or an al qaeda or al zarqawi supporter or a MUSLIM then go ahead call urself iraqi. not assyrian christian.
sorry guys but this realy sickens me. seeing my own people labeling themselvs iraqis.
if u want to be looked at as a terrorist... or an al qaeda or al zarqawi supporter or a MUSLIM then go ahead call urself iraqi. not assyrian christian.
sorry guys but this realy sickens me. seeing my own people labeling themselvs iraqis.
SlitUrAnkles
New member
thank u! :bigarmhug: uffff stop with the complaints of how hard ur life is. look around u...people are out there living on the streets dying for a drink of water and a piece of bread. u wont find peace until u learn to appreciate what god has given u. good luck!
HonDa_RaCiNg_GurL said:
baklawa
New member
Stop for a second and think about your Assyrian brothers and sisters in Iraq. I'm sure they're not too happy about being "Iraqi" Assyrian right now either, but not for the same reasons as you. They have to worry about constant bombings, water/electric shortages, insecurity and chaos. Be grateful for the life you have.
MalekthaA2RETA
New member
Look at it this way.............
Everything happens for a reason.........
It is all part of a DIVINE PLAN..........
ALL OF IT!!
We are in eachother's lives to learn lessons............sometimes, it's how not to be...........
FORGIVE, RELEASE THE PAIN, ACCEPT, TOLERANCE, SHOW COMPASION, LOVE, FORGIVENESS, ............IN THE END, ONLY THE LOVE IS REAL............ALL WE HAVE IS THE HEAR AND NOW, ALL WE HAVE IS THIS MOMENT IN TIME........LET IT ALL GO AND PLACE IT IN GOD'S HANDS.......
WE ALL HAVE PAIN, NOT JUST IRAQI'S OR ASSYRIANS...........EVERYONE HAS EMOTIONAL PAIN.........LET IT GO, CRY, PRAY, MEDITATE.........LISTEN...........IT TAKES TIME, IT'S LIKE PEELING THE LAYERS OF AN ONION.............BUT WHAT IS THE ALTERNATIVE.......UNREALSED EMOTIONAL PAIN FORMS INTO ILLNESS/DISEASE..........DO IT FOR YOURSELF..........DO IT FOR YOUR HEALTH AND LIVE IN UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE..........LIVE IN BLISS......
GOD BLESS YOU.
Everything happens for a reason.........
It is all part of a DIVINE PLAN..........
ALL OF IT!!
We are in eachother's lives to learn lessons............sometimes, it's how not to be...........
FORGIVE, RELEASE THE PAIN, ACCEPT, TOLERANCE, SHOW COMPASION, LOVE, FORGIVENESS, ............IN THE END, ONLY THE LOVE IS REAL............ALL WE HAVE IS THE HEAR AND NOW, ALL WE HAVE IS THIS MOMENT IN TIME........LET IT ALL GO AND PLACE IT IN GOD'S HANDS.......
WE ALL HAVE PAIN, NOT JUST IRAQI'S OR ASSYRIANS...........EVERYONE HAS EMOTIONAL PAIN.........LET IT GO, CRY, PRAY, MEDITATE.........LISTEN...........IT TAKES TIME, IT'S LIKE PEELING THE LAYERS OF AN ONION.............BUT WHAT IS THE ALTERNATIVE.......UNREALSED EMOTIONAL PAIN FORMS INTO ILLNESS/DISEASE..........DO IT FOR YOURSELF..........DO IT FOR YOUR HEALTH AND LIVE IN UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE..........LIVE IN BLISS......
GOD BLESS YOU.
MalekthaA2RETA
New member
Illness and Health by Dr. Carlos Appel, MD
Illness and health are concepts referring to a condition or state of a person as a whole, rather than related to an organ or part of the body as normally inferred.
Never is the body sick or healthy.
The body only expresses information from our spiritual consciousness - it does nothing for itself. It owes its entire functioning to immaterial elements which we call spirit, soul, life.
When our bodily functions perform in a harmonious fashion according to predetermined patterns, we find health. When any function fails or alters the harmony of the whole, illness appears. But the disturbance originates at the source, which is spiritual consciousness, only later to be manifested as a symptom in the body.
It is not right to say that an organ or part of the body is ill or diseased - it is the human being as a whole who may be unhealthy, eventually manifesting this as a symptom or a signal of the body.
Just as a body cannot live without consciousness, it cannot suffer on its own. The appearance of the symptom acts as an alert, pointing to a threat to the harmony of the whole.
Human beings generally prefer not to be bothered and attempt to repress the symptom. Academic medicine persuades the patient that the manifested illness is a mostly random event consequence of a mechanical dysfunction of the body, confusing the symptom with the disease. Therefore this kind of medicine treats the organ or bodily part in isolation, failing to treat the human being as a whole.
It is necessary to understand the difference between symptom and disease.
The symptom is not an enemy to be fought, but an ally helping us discover what may be missing, giving us the elements to overcome our afflictions.
As symptoms point out what may be missing they enable us to gain insight on our problems and to interpret them. With spiritual development, as we gain more knowledge we may begin to transform them, to change our attitudes, to increase our moral standing, to learn Love.
Instead of fighting disease we may attempt to interpret and transmute it. Healing doesn?t represent a victory over a symptom - it implies that we have become wiser. Healing always indicates that we have gained a new insight by going through the process, transmuted the affliction and have come closer to enlightenment.
Healing only takes place with the incorporation of that which is missing: love, unselfishness, expansion of consciousness and spirituality.
Illness and health are twin concepts which only matter regarding consciousness - they cannot apply to the body because by itself it cannot be diseased or healthy. All it does is reflect what takes place in consciousness. Since we have reached the Casa we know that the entities seek above all our healing - that is to say the cure of body and spirit.
Disease turns us into a ?healable? being. It represents a turning point. To interpret it correctly, with the help of the entities of the Casa, will turn illness into goodness.
Though we come into the world with a new body, we bring along an old spiritual consciousness which carries and expresses notions from past lives.
Let us take advantage of this opportunity so that we may improve ourselves and our next life may be even better.
Disease therefore is part of the path towards perfection, because it helped us to get to the Casa and its practice of unconditional Love. Let?s be grateful.
Dr. Carlos Appel, Abadi?nia, 15th February 2006
(Forgiveness, Love, Compassion, Release of Anger, Pain, Tolerance, Acceptance, Non Judgment..........Mediation, Prayer........the pathway to healing......for when the spirit is healed, including past lives, the body heals...........)
Illness and health are concepts referring to a condition or state of a person as a whole, rather than related to an organ or part of the body as normally inferred.
Never is the body sick or healthy.
The body only expresses information from our spiritual consciousness - it does nothing for itself. It owes its entire functioning to immaterial elements which we call spirit, soul, life.
When our bodily functions perform in a harmonious fashion according to predetermined patterns, we find health. When any function fails or alters the harmony of the whole, illness appears. But the disturbance originates at the source, which is spiritual consciousness, only later to be manifested as a symptom in the body.
It is not right to say that an organ or part of the body is ill or diseased - it is the human being as a whole who may be unhealthy, eventually manifesting this as a symptom or a signal of the body.
Just as a body cannot live without consciousness, it cannot suffer on its own. The appearance of the symptom acts as an alert, pointing to a threat to the harmony of the whole.
Human beings generally prefer not to be bothered and attempt to repress the symptom. Academic medicine persuades the patient that the manifested illness is a mostly random event consequence of a mechanical dysfunction of the body, confusing the symptom with the disease. Therefore this kind of medicine treats the organ or bodily part in isolation, failing to treat the human being as a whole.
It is necessary to understand the difference between symptom and disease.
The symptom is not an enemy to be fought, but an ally helping us discover what may be missing, giving us the elements to overcome our afflictions.
As symptoms point out what may be missing they enable us to gain insight on our problems and to interpret them. With spiritual development, as we gain more knowledge we may begin to transform them, to change our attitudes, to increase our moral standing, to learn Love.
Instead of fighting disease we may attempt to interpret and transmute it. Healing doesn?t represent a victory over a symptom - it implies that we have become wiser. Healing always indicates that we have gained a new insight by going through the process, transmuted the affliction and have come closer to enlightenment.
Healing only takes place with the incorporation of that which is missing: love, unselfishness, expansion of consciousness and spirituality.
Illness and health are twin concepts which only matter regarding consciousness - they cannot apply to the body because by itself it cannot be diseased or healthy. All it does is reflect what takes place in consciousness. Since we have reached the Casa we know that the entities seek above all our healing - that is to say the cure of body and spirit.
Disease turns us into a ?healable? being. It represents a turning point. To interpret it correctly, with the help of the entities of the Casa, will turn illness into goodness.
Though we come into the world with a new body, we bring along an old spiritual consciousness which carries and expresses notions from past lives.
Let us take advantage of this opportunity so that we may improve ourselves and our next life may be even better.
Disease therefore is part of the path towards perfection, because it helped us to get to the Casa and its practice of unconditional Love. Let?s be grateful.
Dr. Carlos Appel, Abadi?nia, 15th February 2006
(Forgiveness, Love, Compassion, Release of Anger, Pain, Tolerance, Acceptance, Non Judgment..........Mediation, Prayer........the pathway to healing......for when the spirit is healed, including past lives, the body heals...........)
MalekthaA2RETA
New member
Thriving: Ten Ways to Make Peace With The Past And Create A New Future
by Suzanne Gold
Everyone comes into life with a purpose. You are a unique expression of the universal life force at the foundation of your being. Spirit guides you from the moment your life begins, and the people and events of your life reflect your soul's journey. No one else ever has or will affect the world as you do. With every act, word or thought, you are adding to All-That-Is.
Your family is your first and most influential bond. What you learn from them colors the the way you see yourself and the world. As a child, your physical helplessness makes you dependent on the people closest to you for survival. Too often those relationships are destructive instead of supportive. The family you join already has tendencies: patterns, beliefs, and attitudes which they expect you to share. Going along gets you what you need, so you adapt to fit in. But when you ignore your instincts, you don't feel right. You create the opposite of what you intend.
The good news is you don't have to be a victim of your upbringing. Although a dysfunctional family can crush your self-esteem, confuse you, and wreck your relationships, the distortion of your natural instincts can be reversed. Your problems can show you what you don't want and inspire you to go after what you'd rather have, so you can set yourself free to become the person you want to be and building a life you love.
This doesn't necessarily mean getting along better with your relatives. You make peace with the past by treating difficult situations, thoughts, and feelings as opportunities to unravel the knots in your heart and mind that keep you from realizing your dreams. You create a new future by drawing on your innate wisdom to help you overcome obstacles and achieve your goals. When you do your best, you tap into a power that's been within you all along, in even the worst circumstances, even when you weren't aware of it.
No matter what happens, trust that what you go through will enlighten you. Don't be discouraged. The most important thing is dedication to trying new things and learning from your experience. Change doesn't happen overnight?it comes little by little, more and more, deepening your ability to love, create, and make a difference personally and in society.
So how do you go about doing this? Here are ten ways to spark change in your life and relationships:
1. SET A NEW COURSE
Find your own preferences
Your new course is first an internal one, which paves the way for external changes. If you're not satisfied with your life as it is, start by imagining that it can get better. What happens in your life is largely up to you, so take time every day to think about what you want. Be willing to try new things. Pay close attention to ideas and feelings that light you up. Allow yourself to feel excited about your possibilities. Courage is accepting reality as it is and working with it to create what you want. Do what uplifts you. What you dedicate yourself to, you can create.
2. TRUST YOUR INTUITION
Tap into your inner wisdom
When you hear the "little voice of wisdom" inside, listen. Within you is a guidance system that makes itself known through your ideas and emotions. Trust it. If something doesn't feel right, it may mean that it's not for you. Wonder about why not, and what you'd like instead. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Your instincts lead you to where you need to go at the perfect moment for the best results. Life can be confusing, and some people do try to manipulate you in devious ways. Stand your ground. Believe in yourself in the face of criticism. No one else can tell you what you need or want. Don't second-guess yourself. Do what you think is best at the moment.
3. LOOK FOR A SILVER LINING
Develop a positive attitude
Spirit underlies everything. You didn't come here to prove your worth or to find a problem and fix it. You came to express your talents and abilities, to realize your dreams. What you experience depends on how you look at it. How you interpret things plays a large part in shaping your behavior and how others treat you. Search for the positive. Focusing on the negative dulls your energy and ability to cope. No matter how bad a situation seems, find something in it to appreciate. Ask yourself, what good could come from this? What can I learn here? The answers you get show you what to do next. You already have inside you the resources to make peace with the past and create a new future. You just have to learn how to use them.
4. TAKE A STEP BACK
Get a bigger picture
Be on the lookout for destructive habitual patterns. Noticing is the first step to breaking them. Don't fight them, just observe your thoughts and feelings. The deeper you can go, the more you unravel the stuck places in your heart and mind. Bring spirit into the process by inviting metaphysical help in any form that works for you. You don't have to convince anyone of your right to have your life as you want it. Criticism may be only an automatic response based in the critic's own fears. Be influenced by others' opinions only if they inspire you.
5. WATCH WHAT YOU SAY
Communicate effectively
Be kind. Tell the truth. Speak carefully. Emphasize the positive. Say good things. Be aware of your effect on others. Don't assume you're being understood-- check it out. Make things right. Know when to shut up or decline to answer. Don't interrupt. Don't give unsolicited advice. Don't gossip. When you realize you've made a mistake, apologize. Choose your battles. Why make yourself a target? Watch what you listen to. Allow different points of view. Pay attention not only to what someone says-- try to understand why they're saying it. Don't brag, one-up, pretend you're something you're not, or congratulate yourself too much. Don't think of yourself as better than most. Don't put up with disrespect, manipulation or negative thinking from anyone, including yourself.
6. DON'T KEEP SCORE
Set your own standards
Life isn't about success or failure. Although both teach valuable lessons, fulfilling your potential is the essential goal. Adversity can develop strength. If a dream sours, let it go without judgment or remorse. Assume it's no longer relevant, and look for new options. Even a losing battle can be a stepping-stone to a better situation. Accepting change brings peace of mind.
7. NO VICTIMS, NO VILLAINS
You get exactly what you need to wake up
You are not responsible for anyone else, nor are they for you. Relationships are like jigsaw puzzles. All the pieces fit together to create the whole. That means there's no reason for guilt, blame, or shame. Allow things to be as they are. Accept each moment as if you'd chosen it. If someone hurts you, look for what you can learn from it. Holding a grudge only drains your energy. Forgiveness doesn't mean that what happened was okay with you; it means releasing the person's power to upset you. You may never forget, but letting go of resentment is more productive. This goes double for forgiving yourself.
8. MEDITATE AND TREAT YOURSELF WELL
Nurture yourself
Make time to have fun and enjoy yourself. Take walks in nature. Spend time alone. Exercise, rest and eat when you need to, and drink lots of water. Something as simple as a warm bath or good stretch can do wonders in improving your perspective. Laugh. Let yourself dream your fondest dreams. Celebrate your successes, big and small. Meditation calms your conscious thinking mind, and helps you access your inner wisdom. Counting your breaths is the basic form, or you can silently repeat a soothing word or phrase like "peace" or "well-being." When your mind wanders, and it will, just bring your focus back and start over. Even ten minutes a day can make a difference.
9. GET OUTSIDE HELP
See beyond your blind spots
Get counseling, either by yourself or with family members. It helps to talk about your feelings, no matter how embarrassing, strange or awful they seem to you. Find someone you trust and feel compatible with, and be willing to pour your heart out. An objective outsider can help you clear up confusion and set your creative energy free. Examine both sides of any issue. Don't follow advice blindly, but do explore ideas that make sense to you to see what happens. Join a group of people with similar interests or circumstances to yours to reassure yourself that you're not alone. Try art, sports, music, or dance for fun and/or therapy. Don't expect The Answer, but serve yourself a variety of ideas to take or leave as you like.
10. MOVE ON
Graduate to living fully
Respect your own boundaries. Your first commitment should be to yourself and to learning as much as possible from what happens to you. Do what you can, and do your best, but not at your own expense. Only when you're at peace with yourself can you make a real contribution to anyone. Live your own truth, be honorable, and intend the best for everyone, including yourself. Trying to change someone is futile, no matter how much you care, or how badly you think they need it. You have no control over what anyone else feels or thinks. Working things through can be healing when there's mutual respect, but if you feel hopeless, scape-goated, threatened or frantic, retreat may be the only appropriate choice, at least for the moment. You may need to leave the room briefly, or something as extreme as ending the relationship or moving away. But your changes alter the context of the relationship, so be open to the possibility that the "problem" person may come to treat you differently. If so, you may want to renew the relationship, but don't rush into it until you're confident that things have changed. To leave your mark on future generations, pass along what you learn.
I wish you healing, faith and the courage to make your dreams come true.
Suzanne
___________________
Suzanne Gold, "The Family Fixer," (Pacific Sun) is a life counselor, spiritual coach, teacher, and author of "Daddy's Girls," which
won the Gold Medal for fiction in ForeWord Magazine's Book of the Year Awards, and co-author of Being Yourself: Twenty-Four Ways to See the Light. Herself the survivor of a dysfunctional family, Suzanne teaches college seminars and workshops, and works with individuals couples and families in private practice. She has worked as a therapist in psychiatric and drug treatment centers,
taught meditation workshops, and co-founded a self-help group for women and an environmental grantmaking fund. She is also an
award-winning vocalist and songwriter who spent ten years as a working singer who performed the National Anthem for the San
Francisco Giants at Candlestick Park, and has been featured in the Pacific Sun, Marin Independent Journal, San Francisco Jewish
Bulletin, Nelson (BC) Daily News, and at BookBrowser.com. For more information, go to http://www.SuzanneGold.com or email
Suzanne@SuzanneGold.com
by Suzanne Gold
Everyone comes into life with a purpose. You are a unique expression of the universal life force at the foundation of your being. Spirit guides you from the moment your life begins, and the people and events of your life reflect your soul's journey. No one else ever has or will affect the world as you do. With every act, word or thought, you are adding to All-That-Is.
Your family is your first and most influential bond. What you learn from them colors the the way you see yourself and the world. As a child, your physical helplessness makes you dependent on the people closest to you for survival. Too often those relationships are destructive instead of supportive. The family you join already has tendencies: patterns, beliefs, and attitudes which they expect you to share. Going along gets you what you need, so you adapt to fit in. But when you ignore your instincts, you don't feel right. You create the opposite of what you intend.
The good news is you don't have to be a victim of your upbringing. Although a dysfunctional family can crush your self-esteem, confuse you, and wreck your relationships, the distortion of your natural instincts can be reversed. Your problems can show you what you don't want and inspire you to go after what you'd rather have, so you can set yourself free to become the person you want to be and building a life you love.
This doesn't necessarily mean getting along better with your relatives. You make peace with the past by treating difficult situations, thoughts, and feelings as opportunities to unravel the knots in your heart and mind that keep you from realizing your dreams. You create a new future by drawing on your innate wisdom to help you overcome obstacles and achieve your goals. When you do your best, you tap into a power that's been within you all along, in even the worst circumstances, even when you weren't aware of it.
No matter what happens, trust that what you go through will enlighten you. Don't be discouraged. The most important thing is dedication to trying new things and learning from your experience. Change doesn't happen overnight?it comes little by little, more and more, deepening your ability to love, create, and make a difference personally and in society.
So how do you go about doing this? Here are ten ways to spark change in your life and relationships:
1. SET A NEW COURSE
Find your own preferences
Your new course is first an internal one, which paves the way for external changes. If you're not satisfied with your life as it is, start by imagining that it can get better. What happens in your life is largely up to you, so take time every day to think about what you want. Be willing to try new things. Pay close attention to ideas and feelings that light you up. Allow yourself to feel excited about your possibilities. Courage is accepting reality as it is and working with it to create what you want. Do what uplifts you. What you dedicate yourself to, you can create.
2. TRUST YOUR INTUITION
Tap into your inner wisdom
When you hear the "little voice of wisdom" inside, listen. Within you is a guidance system that makes itself known through your ideas and emotions. Trust it. If something doesn't feel right, it may mean that it's not for you. Wonder about why not, and what you'd like instead. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Your instincts lead you to where you need to go at the perfect moment for the best results. Life can be confusing, and some people do try to manipulate you in devious ways. Stand your ground. Believe in yourself in the face of criticism. No one else can tell you what you need or want. Don't second-guess yourself. Do what you think is best at the moment.
3. LOOK FOR A SILVER LINING
Develop a positive attitude
Spirit underlies everything. You didn't come here to prove your worth or to find a problem and fix it. You came to express your talents and abilities, to realize your dreams. What you experience depends on how you look at it. How you interpret things plays a large part in shaping your behavior and how others treat you. Search for the positive. Focusing on the negative dulls your energy and ability to cope. No matter how bad a situation seems, find something in it to appreciate. Ask yourself, what good could come from this? What can I learn here? The answers you get show you what to do next. You already have inside you the resources to make peace with the past and create a new future. You just have to learn how to use them.
4. TAKE A STEP BACK
Get a bigger picture
Be on the lookout for destructive habitual patterns. Noticing is the first step to breaking them. Don't fight them, just observe your thoughts and feelings. The deeper you can go, the more you unravel the stuck places in your heart and mind. Bring spirit into the process by inviting metaphysical help in any form that works for you. You don't have to convince anyone of your right to have your life as you want it. Criticism may be only an automatic response based in the critic's own fears. Be influenced by others' opinions only if they inspire you.
5. WATCH WHAT YOU SAY
Communicate effectively
Be kind. Tell the truth. Speak carefully. Emphasize the positive. Say good things. Be aware of your effect on others. Don't assume you're being understood-- check it out. Make things right. Know when to shut up or decline to answer. Don't interrupt. Don't give unsolicited advice. Don't gossip. When you realize you've made a mistake, apologize. Choose your battles. Why make yourself a target? Watch what you listen to. Allow different points of view. Pay attention not only to what someone says-- try to understand why they're saying it. Don't brag, one-up, pretend you're something you're not, or congratulate yourself too much. Don't think of yourself as better than most. Don't put up with disrespect, manipulation or negative thinking from anyone, including yourself.
6. DON'T KEEP SCORE
Set your own standards
Life isn't about success or failure. Although both teach valuable lessons, fulfilling your potential is the essential goal. Adversity can develop strength. If a dream sours, let it go without judgment or remorse. Assume it's no longer relevant, and look for new options. Even a losing battle can be a stepping-stone to a better situation. Accepting change brings peace of mind.
7. NO VICTIMS, NO VILLAINS
You get exactly what you need to wake up
You are not responsible for anyone else, nor are they for you. Relationships are like jigsaw puzzles. All the pieces fit together to create the whole. That means there's no reason for guilt, blame, or shame. Allow things to be as they are. Accept each moment as if you'd chosen it. If someone hurts you, look for what you can learn from it. Holding a grudge only drains your energy. Forgiveness doesn't mean that what happened was okay with you; it means releasing the person's power to upset you. You may never forget, but letting go of resentment is more productive. This goes double for forgiving yourself.
8. MEDITATE AND TREAT YOURSELF WELL
Nurture yourself
Make time to have fun and enjoy yourself. Take walks in nature. Spend time alone. Exercise, rest and eat when you need to, and drink lots of water. Something as simple as a warm bath or good stretch can do wonders in improving your perspective. Laugh. Let yourself dream your fondest dreams. Celebrate your successes, big and small. Meditation calms your conscious thinking mind, and helps you access your inner wisdom. Counting your breaths is the basic form, or you can silently repeat a soothing word or phrase like "peace" or "well-being." When your mind wanders, and it will, just bring your focus back and start over. Even ten minutes a day can make a difference.
9. GET OUTSIDE HELP
See beyond your blind spots
Get counseling, either by yourself or with family members. It helps to talk about your feelings, no matter how embarrassing, strange or awful they seem to you. Find someone you trust and feel compatible with, and be willing to pour your heart out. An objective outsider can help you clear up confusion and set your creative energy free. Examine both sides of any issue. Don't follow advice blindly, but do explore ideas that make sense to you to see what happens. Join a group of people with similar interests or circumstances to yours to reassure yourself that you're not alone. Try art, sports, music, or dance for fun and/or therapy. Don't expect The Answer, but serve yourself a variety of ideas to take or leave as you like.
10. MOVE ON
Graduate to living fully
Respect your own boundaries. Your first commitment should be to yourself and to learning as much as possible from what happens to you. Do what you can, and do your best, but not at your own expense. Only when you're at peace with yourself can you make a real contribution to anyone. Live your own truth, be honorable, and intend the best for everyone, including yourself. Trying to change someone is futile, no matter how much you care, or how badly you think they need it. You have no control over what anyone else feels or thinks. Working things through can be healing when there's mutual respect, but if you feel hopeless, scape-goated, threatened or frantic, retreat may be the only appropriate choice, at least for the moment. You may need to leave the room briefly, or something as extreme as ending the relationship or moving away. But your changes alter the context of the relationship, so be open to the possibility that the "problem" person may come to treat you differently. If so, you may want to renew the relationship, but don't rush into it until you're confident that things have changed. To leave your mark on future generations, pass along what you learn.
I wish you healing, faith and the courage to make your dreams come true.
Suzanne
___________________
Suzanne Gold, "The Family Fixer," (Pacific Sun) is a life counselor, spiritual coach, teacher, and author of "Daddy's Girls," which
won the Gold Medal for fiction in ForeWord Magazine's Book of the Year Awards, and co-author of Being Yourself: Twenty-Four Ways to See the Light. Herself the survivor of a dysfunctional family, Suzanne teaches college seminars and workshops, and works with individuals couples and families in private practice. She has worked as a therapist in psychiatric and drug treatment centers,
taught meditation workshops, and co-founded a self-help group for women and an environmental grantmaking fund. She is also an
award-winning vocalist and songwriter who spent ten years as a working singer who performed the National Anthem for the San
Francisco Giants at Candlestick Park, and has been featured in the Pacific Sun, Marin Independent Journal, San Francisco Jewish
Bulletin, Nelson (BC) Daily News, and at BookBrowser.com. For more information, go to http://www.SuzanneGold.com or email
Suzanne@SuzanneGold.com
winged angel
New member
J-ROK said:
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HonDa_RaCiNg_GurL said:
Its ok zina,i am not going to be upset over ur unfair responce,craving attention! lol this is a good one,am i?of course not and why would i be doing that,do u call just saying how u feel or think craving attention?and no i dont need therapy....as for me complaining about assyrian girls...well i stopped doing that..why?its a waste of time,in the end we are free with our choices..
GodismyJudge
Active member
J-ROK said:
AMEN!!!
I will NEVER EVER call myself a Turk. Eventough my parents were born in turkey.
I see this a lot. Not by the Assyrians from Turkey but mostly by Assyrians from Syria,Iraq and Iran.